Do you really think that your parent know what best?
So when everyone tells you that your parents know whats best, do they really?
Think about it....
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K have you thought about it? Becuase I think that when it comes to some things, they do know what is best for you. becuase they have been through that experence, but what about those things that they have never been through?
I know that kids are growing up at a faster rate then they did when they were younger. And that makes our generation experence things in a whole different way then they did.
They were experenceing things when they were older, so the situations were different, but when you experence them where your younger the situation ( bad or good) is in a whole different perspective!
When I hear of some of the things that my parents tell me, it really makes me think, are they trying to talk to me about something that they THINK that they know alot aobut! But sometime I think that they dont really know how I feel. I am sure that it was the same way when they were kids. They probabley thought that their parents didnt understand where they were coming from. And maybe they didnt! so that is what I am asking you, do you really think that parents try to give us advice from personal experence or from their common sence of what they THINK that they know about being a teen in 2005. some times I think that they want me to be better off so they lie to me so that I wont have to experence some of the bad things in life. I am not saying that it is bad that they try and protect me, but all I am saying is that they need to try and understand wher I am coming from. For example, my parents tell me that girls really shouldnt call the guys. They say that if he really wants to talk that he will call me, but what if I really want to talk to him? Am I suposto wait for him to call me? See, in this day in age I think that it is very normal for the girl to call the guy. But my parents dont think that it is the lady like thing to do.
So I guess that this is one of the things that I will realize when I get older...... ( or is that just what they wnat me to think)?????
see ya
Rae Rae
Think about it....
....
................
K have you thought about it? Becuase I think that when it comes to some things, they do know what is best for you. becuase they have been through that experence, but what about those things that they have never been through?
I know that kids are growing up at a faster rate then they did when they were younger. And that makes our generation experence things in a whole different way then they did.
They were experenceing things when they were older, so the situations were different, but when you experence them where your younger the situation ( bad or good) is in a whole different perspective!
When I hear of some of the things that my parents tell me, it really makes me think, are they trying to talk to me about something that they THINK that they know alot aobut! But sometime I think that they dont really know how I feel. I am sure that it was the same way when they were kids. They probabley thought that their parents didnt understand where they were coming from. And maybe they didnt! so that is what I am asking you, do you really think that parents try to give us advice from personal experence or from their common sence of what they THINK that they know about being a teen in 2005. some times I think that they want me to be better off so they lie to me so that I wont have to experence some of the bad things in life. I am not saying that it is bad that they try and protect me, but all I am saying is that they need to try and understand wher I am coming from. For example, my parents tell me that girls really shouldnt call the guys. They say that if he really wants to talk that he will call me, but what if I really want to talk to him? Am I suposto wait for him to call me? See, in this day in age I think that it is very normal for the girl to call the guy. But my parents dont think that it is the lady like thing to do.
So I guess that this is one of the things that I will realize when I get older...... ( or is that just what they wnat me to think)?????
see ya
Rae Rae
posted by RaeAnne Adams at 10:35 PM
1 Comments:
Rae Anne,
As I parent, I'd like to add a few things to your reflections. One thing that is new to your generation that affects parenting is how immediate everything is in this culture. Everyone has a cell phone, a computer, a video player, and a credit card, so there is no need to wait for anything. This is the world you have grown up in, and some parents are probably struggling to adjust. When I was your age, if we wanted to hear a song and we didn't own the album (there were no CDs then, only records and tapes), we had to listen to the radio all night and hope it came on. If there was a movie we wanted to see that was no longer playing in the theater, we had to wait until it came on TV (and we couldn't pause it or rewind and watch it again after it was over). If we were out at a school activity and we needed to call home, we had to look for a pay phone...and there was NO WAY for our parents to contact us unless they knew a phone number where we would be going.
Although technology has made everything more convenient, it has also made many things less meaningful. The songs don't mean as much when all you have to do is download them whenever you want to hear them. The movies get boring after you have seen them 25 times. The phone calls to check in are no longer a pleasant way of touching base with the family, but an expectation.
In my own experience, I have noticed that because of all this technology, my own children have grown up much faster than I did. They have heard more music and seen more movies and been entertained in so many new ways that I never would have dreamed of as a kid that I don't know if they appreciate any of it very much. And a lot of that may be my own fault; after all, I encouraged them because I was enjoying it all (for the first time) just as much as they were. To me it was a novelty, but to them it is a way of life. Sometimes this makes your generation seem like a "throw-away culture." If it's old, chuck it. If it's boring, ignore it. If it's slow, speed it up! If it's difficult, avoid it! I don't know if these are good life lessons. But my generation is also at fault for often trying to be friends with our kids instead of parents to them.
You always bring up provocative topics in your blogs! Keep it up!
MRT
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